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5 Things I Saw:
A mockingbird at eye level
A pile of twill tape scraps
A handful of incredibly tall masc-presenting college students
Neighbor Melody paused with her dog to talk to Eddie on the corner
An inexplicable traffic jam at 5 & 57

4 Things I Touched/Felt:
Hot glue that was still hot
A fossil about 250 million years old
A fuzzy sweater
My physical therapist's hands

3 Things I Heard:
Meemo rumbles
The bidet air dryer
Gentle snores

2 Things I Smelled:
Spicy faux pho broth
The weird tang of skin that's touched iron

1 Thing I Tasted:
20:1 tincture
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5 Things I Saw:
A chickadee foraging in the garden beds
Vultures over Rt 9
The flash of a fluffy feral cat racing across the road
A FB Messenger notification that made my heart leap
My therapist's face

4 Things I Touched:
Useless bra strap loops removed from eShakti garments
The gritty-but-greasy grips of a bouldering wall
Nintendo Switch controllers
The chain of a pendulum amulet

3 Things I Heard:
A truck engine that sounded like thunder
The intensely soothing Cozy Grove soundtrack
Clicks from the radiator

2 Things I Smelled:
Cat butt (not on purpose)
Slightly musty sheets

1 Thing I Tasted:
A transcendent post-bouldering margarita

Rewiring

Apr. 18th, 2022 02:41 pm
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Related/Unrelated to previous posts, but I re-wrote my brain the other day and it was a goddamn trip.

T was trying to tickle my feet. Mind you, since I was a child I have been tickling almost nowhere else. I'm not talking about the random tickle of a stray hair on your neck, but actively "it is hard to be touched in this place because I am so ticklish."

So sometimes it is fun and funny to try and tickle someone, and so he grabbed my feet and started tickling them and I was trying to be funny about it but I was like "Fine I'm not ticklish on my feet anymore." And he kept tickling and I kept saying to myself "Nope that doesn't tickle. I can feel it but what I am feeling is Not Ticklish."

And after a few minutes of this, I wasn't ticklish on my feet anymore. I even had Thom try the other foot, but nope. It felt sensitive and really intense, but I didn't feel the reflexive need to pull my foot away.

Fucking weird.
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The mystery of life isn't a problem to solve, but a reality to experience. A process that cannot be understood by stopping it. We must move with the flow of the process.

Take a deep breath.

Stop browsing for your next home.
Stop thinking about your next job.
Stop planning for every possible permutation before you even know what the Now looks like.

Everything is flowing very fast right now. Wanting it to slow down, to stop, so you can catch your breath, so you can see the shape of it, denies the very nature of it.

Relax into the flow, release into the chaos, let each tight and taut part of you be taken away by the current until you are slippery as waterweed.

This is what the journey is right Now. It's being carried downstream in Time towards Unknown.

I miss the smell of mystery
Reverb leaking out of tavern doors
And not knowing how the sounds were made


Embrace the excitement and joy of the ride, stay curious about the mysteries, accept unknowing. Embrace The Fool of the Tarot, and carry that with you down the long and twisty river.

Home

Apr. 14th, 2022 06:39 am
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I lost my domestic partner in a tragic Capitalism accident.

We've both been in Denial or Avoidance mode about it for months now. I'd suspected, and made some noise about it, but Denial and Avoidance is powerful stuff.

And calling it an 'accident' is unfair. The whole thing was very plotted and planned for. Mostly Capitalism is the accident, the Destroyer. If you don't have Capitalism Points, you can't have anything else. And we shouldn't have to destroy ourselves for those Capitalism Points. Labor sucks, and at the very least we should be earning the CP doing something that we don't absolutely loathe.

I encouraged the accident because I could see how miserable my Domestic Partner was, how much something needed to change, because the things I love about them were being worn down to nothingness.

"Won't you miss me?"
"I'll adapt. I always do."

Beloved Readers, I lied to myself.

I lie like we always do when we want to keep from hurting others, when we want things to be true.

So I lost my Domestic Partner. Last August.

I still have a lover, an emotional intimate, a friend.

But I can't stress enough how much having a Domestic Partner meant to me. How much I love being Home with and for someone. How much warmth and safety and love love love I feel knowing someone is or will be Home. And I had it and it was beautiful. And now it is gone.

And now I am full of Grief. I quick-cycle through anger, bargaining, depression, and denial. I have been doing so for almost 9 months. Grief is exhausting.

When does Acceptance start? How do I move on?
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I need a word for “I am doing a really good job of taking care of myself, checking in with my body, recognizing my triggers, holding myself accountable with compassion when I make mistakes, and general self-care…yet I am STILL incredibly exhausted and just want someone else to care for me for a while.”

Exhausted? Maybe we’ll just go with exhausted.

Having a complete mental breakdown sounds really appealing right now. If I were wealthy I’d check myself into some fancy rehab resort. I’m not though so the best I could hope for is that the floors aren’t too sticky In my local psych ward.

I’m keeping on keeping on. I don’t have a choice. Or I do but it’s a really permanent choice and really I just want to rest for like…a week solid or something.

I’m half tempted to crowd find a weeks vacation. I make so little money right now I wouldn’t even feel bad asking people to pitch in. 6 friends pitching in 50 each would cover it. I know plenty of people with big tech salaries.

Uh. Anyway. I have a lunch date today with a girl I have a crush on. I think it’s just a friend-date because I don’t even know if she’s queer let alone non monogamous. Maybe I’ll get up the courage to ask.

But I’m so tired.
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I recently snagged my old SCA LJ and ported it over to here. It's at [personal profile] baronexv if you want to check that out.

Of course any revisit of LJ or DW means reading through a host of old entries. It's a bit sad for me to realize how much my journaling habits coincide with PMDD flares or bad anxiety episodes. It's such a wholly one-sided view of my life, and it's really not the best side. But it makes sense that I'd need to do the most on-paper processing when I'm struggling.

Gabapentin is doing more heavy lifting for both my GAD and PMDD than any SSRI combo I've tried. The side effect of being a bit dopey in the morning is a small price to pay, I think. My last PMDD flare only lasted 48 hours, compared to the 5-7 days I've experienced for I Don't Even Know How Long. It still sucked a lot, but I was also able to keep a level of objectivity through *most* of it that I normally cannot touch.

I read in one of my old entries that my goal for 2020 was "to feel my feelings instead of thinking them" and I am still working on that. It's ongoing work, y'know? Like going to the gym. I hate going to the gym. But I did manage to feel my way through a pretty bad anxiety attack yesterday by speaking my physical reactions out loud, and pausing myself with compassion when I started creating narratives for my feelings.

I'm no longer looking to be perfect at this stuff, just to do my best.
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Hello friends!
I have mentioned a few times in various spaces that I have PMDD (Pre- or Peri-Menstrual Dysphoric Disorder - https://iapmd.org/about-pmdd) and am working on navigating how best to not just survive it, but continue to thrive where I can. The last few flares have been Very Bad, and a few people have asked how best they can help. Because I am Lucid!Larisa right now, it's possible for me to ask for help that PMDD!Larisa is emotionally, mentally, and physically incapable of asking for.

The best possible things for PMDD!Larisa seem to be Bids For Connection that DO NOT include the really fraught and terrible "How Are You Doing?" Please do not ask PMDD!Larisa how they are doing. They are not doing well and they do not want to talk about it.

So here are some helping ideas!

Timing: Set a calendar alert or an alarm for the week between February 26 and March 5. Later in that window is the best time to reach out, as it seems like the last 3 days of a flare seem to be the worst.

Some ideas for Best Bids for Connection include:
Telling me that you heard/listened to a song that made you think of me.
Bonus points for if it reminds you of a nice experience we had together.
Sharing stupid jokes, bad puns, memes that made you lol (bonus for 'and think of me',) shaggy dog tales
Small creative gifts, which include short playlists or digital art or photographs of cool things you saw that you thought I would like.
General "remember when..." memory-reminders of shit we've done together.

Things that are often fraught during that time:
The dreaded "How are you doing?"
Actual face-to-face company
Compliments
Snark (some lighthearted saltiness can be good, but if it starts getting too vent-y it can go a bad direction in my head)

And yes, I AM working with my medical team on pharmaceutical solutions, but even Lucid!Larisa is grudgingly admitting that having a social support network is important to mental health.
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Currently planning to move back to WA for a bit. Maybe a long bit? IDK.
In short, my mom was planning to move out here to MA, but a few weeks ago I was complaining about the weather & she said "Are you sure you don't want to move out here?"
And friends, I was not so sure. I have always low-key missed the weather in Washington, but I've made such good friends in New England that the idea of leaving seemed flawed. But when you haven't seen your friends in a year it starts to feel less important that you be within driving distance.
We're planning on keeping the house in Springfield, at least for a bit. Our housemate is still interested in living here and finding other people to help pay rent. We'll worry about selling if it starts to feel like a more permanent move, but knowing we can come back is what feels right for now.
Planning to live with my mom in Sequim for a year and see how that goes. Might get our own place after that?
I'm excited about getting a chance to have an adult relationship with her. I have no idea what that might look like, and that's okay.

Maybe we'll find the perfect chunk of land and/or community out there and I can have my goat-raising, berry-picking dreams realized.
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Didn't really work outside much today. It was still pretty cold and windy. I hear we're getting snow tomorrow?

Yesterday I discovered this single little leaf peeking out of the ground. It didn't look like anything I'd seen in my garden before, and I'm a little confused how it got there.

Turns out it's a Trout Lily (https://www.wildflower.org/plants/result.php?id_plant=eram5), which is a native plant that does decently well in the shade. It apparently takes these things 7 years to produce a single yellow flower, but they are supposed to form a colony, so maybe I will get some good ground cover? The leaves are a very pretty mottled color, and it makes a nice variation in my otherwise very "just green" garden.

I ordered some additional raised bed kits so I can expand the vegetable garden. I'm also trying like hell to order a Subpod composting system, but the damn website keeps declining my card. Either way, looking forward to growing Even More Things this year.
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My garden is one of the only things bringing me peace right now, so I'm going to try to post every day about some of the plants I'm hoping to grow, or thoughts I think, or whatever.

So much of my garden right now is a lesson in patience. Plants don't grow fast. Well, most of them. Trying to turn my yarden* over into a native/naturalized/food-generating place is a slow process.

My yarden also has a frustrating amount of shade. All the houses around are 3 stories, and relatively close together. Plus there's lots of tall trees. Our street-side is also the north side, so the front yard only gets sunlight for a few hours of the day early and late.

One of my favorite native shade plants is Black Cohosh (https://vnps.org/wildflowers-of-the-year/wildflower-of-the-year-2017-actaea-racemosa-black-cohosh/) and I really would love to just have it everywhere. Early in 2019 I ordered something like 24 black cohosh rhizomes and put them all over. Back fence, side fence, front of house...everywhere. I suspect maybe half of them put up a wan little leaf or two that summer.

The past few days I've been weeding and locating desirables, and I'm happy to see that at least ~8 of the plants seem to be putting up leaves. I hope that they thrive. I love the look of the bright green foliage, and the wispy twist of the "fairy candle" flowers when they get really big and tall.

So much of gardening right now is about forming this image in my head of what things *might* look like in any given spot. Future visualization is a tool of fantasy I've used for most of my life, and right now it's one of the few things that's giving me things to look forward to.


* Is it a yard? Is it a garden? Am I only working in the garden when I'm tending the vegetables? Are the parts that are neglected just a yard?

"Harry"

Mar. 19th, 2010 11:41 pm
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Yes, yes, long time no post.
This was a project for school.



But what you really want to know is "WHAT'S IN THE BOX, MAN???"
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The first of probably a million. This was a photo I'd had rattling around my iPhone for a few weeks and just didn't know what to do with. The sad little peg-eared donkey apparently just needed a little filtering courtesy of the new app I downloaded this morning.


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I recently created this fake-woodcut piece for my local SCA group's "phonebook". I've never attempted anything like this before so it was definitely a learning experience.



The whole thing was done in 005 and 02 Micron pens. I based the majority of it on an image of St. Luke, and replaced him with a female figure from Ars Moriendi from nearly 2 decades earlier. There's about 49574398 things I'd do differently if I had to do it over again, but in general I was very happy with the way it turned out.
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A bunch of my LJ peeps are recently back from CC27, and all their pictures and stories have me kind of itching to maybe try and make the next one.

But if I did (and that's a big "IF"), what would I want to make?

* My first instinct is to finish the Mughal ensemble (center figure) that I've planned/been working on for the past five years. The silk tunic has been hanging, half-made for a while, and it would be nice to at least have it finished. I've got the fabric for the choga (the short coat thing) but would need to find something to use for the salwar. I've made a permutation with a narrowly striped pink and orange cotton, but would love to find something more similar to the image.

* I have a sketch, somewhere, here of a costume that is for a sort of half-Japanese/half-Victorian "girl gang" called The Crane Wives (based on a Japanese story and, yes, a song by the Decemberists.) I think this one would be really fun, and not too hard to make, but it would also be something that would be more entertaining as a Group costume, especially if everyone did slight variations on the theme, but kept the "logo" on the back of the jacket and a general black/white/red color scheme. I think it would look awesome to do the jacket in a sheer white silk and ombre dye the bottoms of the sleeves black (like, y'know, a crane's wing).

* At least one Steampunk outfit (not costume, dammit) that doesn't suck. I'm so very weary of seeing the style done poorly.

* And of course, part of me wants to do something fabulous and Princessy and 18th c., but I know sweet f.a. about that style, and wouldn't even be sure where to start. Suggestions? ETA: Okay, I admit I am particularly entranced with the later 18th c. stuff, like whateverinheck is being worn by Duchess Georgiana in this 1783 image. I like the surplice bodice a lot, which I think would look more awesome on me than the gathered gaulle/chemise à la reine. It's certainly not as Princessy as the earlier stuff, but I think I'm ok with that. Admittedly a big part of me wants to throw the whole "light colors" idea to the wind and make one in burgundy with chocolate brown trimming, because damn, that would just look hot.

ETA: Oh damn, another one * There's a burgundy velvet (?) gown that Juliette Binoche wears in Les Enfants du Siècle that makes me nearly cry with the hotness. You can kind of see the top of it here. Hmm, I may have to re-acquire the DVD and get some screencaps.

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May. 3rd, 2009 12:10 pm
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A few older images, with new textures/cropping.





Gifties

Dec. 22nd, 2008 10:24 am
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Gift Front
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I just had to share this.
Because there's no sneaky way David could have purchased my Seasonal Winter Gift without killing my existing phone service, he made this awesome little papercraft version, complete with Hat Of Shame-wearing Cat.

:D
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An Essay By Ethyl Cannes

Under the Cut )

Wagers

Aug. 12th, 2007 09:41 pm
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A few months ago, I made a wager with [livejournal.com profile] fishheadned. I bet that there were few ways that he could possibly propose that I would not have thought of already. He bet that he could. If I won the bet (i.e. he proposed in a way I genuinely anticipated) he would have to get me a kitten. If he won, well, no kitten.

Apparently blindsiding me during brunch is the way to get out of having more cats in the house.


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Thanks to the joys of the new LJ tool, I've magically friends-locked every single past entry. That's 1400+ entries!

Selected future posts may be public, but for the most part this LJ is now in complete lock-down.
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